My husband is scheduled for on in August, happily, and my friend;s husband has one, and there doesn't seem to be any change. It does need to get checked in the first year and then a every year after that?
I have been trying to get my husband to get one since my youngest was born. Unfortunately, he hasn't budged. I feel like I've been through enough after giving birth to his two children and that it is his turn to step up to the plate. For some reason, he is adamant about not having the procedure. I've tried talking to him about it, but he still refuses. He is a great husband in every other way and is one of the most flexible people I have ever met. What is with his resistance on this issue? It is nothing in comparison to what a women goes through when she gives birth to a child.
Hubby had one last week. He had one day of discomfort and then he was back to himself. No where near the recovery of childbirth or the hassle most women go through with birth control. If there was a procedure that simple for women, I would have it done. He walked out of the office 45 minutes after walking in, had to put ice on it for the afternoon. He was given some pain medication for that evening and the next day he felt up to painting our bathroom.
Just curious - would you ever feel any regrets? I remember reading a very interesting article about a woman who decided to get a hysterectomy but her doctor wanted to talk her out of it out of fears that she may one day change her mind.
If we didn't already have two children, I might feel regrets. But, I'm in my late thirties, I don't have very healthy pregnancies or easy deliveries and we both feel like this is our family. We're very satisified with two. So, I don't think we'll have any regrets. If I were younger, I might have wanted to wait.
I would never get a hysterectomy by choice. I think it messes with your hormones and is too invasive. I also have two children and my husband and I have discussed, if we wanted more, we would consider adopting. We are happy with the lot we have produced. When we considered adoption as a potential option, it kind of made me happy down the road. Not that that is going to happen, but I feel very fulfilled with my pregnancies and births and children. My husband feels the same.
My husband had it when our daughter was 1 year old. He had it done on a Wednesday and was ready to go back to work the next Monday. I had to work, so we set up a ice chest next to the couch with drinks, cold cuts, snack foods, etc. He can pee in a bottle if he really needs to, but my husband was able to get up to go do that. Your man will need a jock strap to hold his junk in place because jiggle = painful at that stage of the game. He was back in the saddle sex-wise within a week and a half, but he did make note of some deep discomfort in his testicles for about 2-3 weeks. I say it can't be any worse than cramps every month from age 10 to age 50 for women!!
As for regrets...I have had them on and off (my daughter is 2 now). It's like a death. The death of your baby making years. What milestones are left in your life after it? Retirement?? Sometimes I am totally cool with it, and other times I feel so sad my daughter won't have a sibling. I feel the grief only occasionally, particularly around that time of the month when my hormones are raging and I could cry at a well crafted commercial on TV. I just try to be sensible and ride it out (with a glass of wine in my hand, hahaha) and soon enough I am glad I don't have the responsiblity of more children.
My husband and I decided if we really want more kids later we will adopt. However, just like with a death of a loved one, time heals. I think a woman's hormones make her want to have more kids as long as she has a menstrual cycle, but that doesn't mean it's the best way to make yourself happy and fulfilled. I am really happy I won't have any more kids when my daughter is throwing a tantrum in Costco on a Saturday morning and everyone is looking at me like I am the worst mom in the world...LOL ;0)
sounds like maybe you wish you had waited a little longer? To not have the decision feel like death? Have you thought of it being reversed if it is possible.
If anything, feeling free from the worry of pregnancy improved our sex life.
The procedure itself was simple and recovery was too. He had a couple of uncomfortable days, took a few ibuprofen, but that was about it.
Did I regret it? Sometimes, but I think we all go through a bit of a mourning period when we come to the conclusion that our baby making days are over, whether by choice or when perimenopause begins.
When my husband and I decided to have him get one ( he eagerly suggested it), We did agree that if we wanted a third, we would happily adopt. There are so many amazingly beautiful children in the world needing good homes. ! Good luck! Everything happens for a reason and maybe your are a key person in some sweet baby's life, ready to change their fate forever. Very empowering in a way!
